can I go over to my friend's house?

I've been struggling with what to do when the girls ask to have playdates at houses of kids I don't know. I don't want to let them into someone's home whom I've never met. My parents were really careful about that I still ended up in some strange situations. Thankfully God always protected me and I know that my parents were always praying for my safety.

So, I should not worry too much and I usually do trust my instincts.

Anna was playing with a little girl yesterday and asked me repeatedly about going to her house. I don't know anything about her but I have a rough idea of who her mom is. So, I was considering it.

Then, I was picking the girls up for school today and I saw her mom - completely unsteady and looking a bit delirious. I've seen her before at school and she usually seems fine. I asked another mom what she thought and she said the mom looked completely drunk. As I watched she nearly fell over twice while waiting to pick up her daughter from school. She was unable to walk even nearly straight as they headed towards their car. (!!)

So - I'm sticking with my instincts and I'm grateful that God provided me with a clear answer on this one. And I'm praying for her now. You never know what people are struggling with in their day to day lives.


Becky said...

This is a new struggle for me as well. Typically, I suggest that we invite the kids here instead. I find that most parents let their kids come over even when they don't know me that well, which I am completely shocked about. I really only feel comfortable sending my girls to the homes of people I know very well.


Karen said...

I agree with you that it's better to be safe than sorry. Until you know the parents and more about them and their family dynamics, values, etc.... I agree to have playdates at your home. Try to see if they could meet at a park or somewhere where you can get to know the mom in a neutral environment... or have the mom over for coffee.... Of course, even one visit doesn't give you much info/insight into their lives. Certainly is a tough situation and so hard to explain to the kids why....